Over Generalisation
Dealing with Over Generalising when bad things occur
Bad things happen to everyone. Things don’t go the way we expect or desire. This is a common part of life. However, our interpretations of these events, how we frame them in our minds, has huge influence over how those things affect and change us.Often when one thing goes wrong, we will feel like everything is going wrong. Suddenly we will see all the different aspects of our lives that aren’t to our liking, and reach the conclusion that “everything is broken”. A healthier response is to see the problem as what it really is: One problem, in one small area of our lives.
Even seemingly major problems (for example, being kicked out of your home or job), when put in context are never as serious as they may first seem. We still have our health, the love of those close to us, arms, legs and the freedom to make choices and improve our lives in ways we may never have imagined. Once we can step past the initial shock, often these serious kind of changes can bring about the most positive transitions in our lives.
Here’s a tapping to help us keep problems in perspective.
Setup
[while continually tapping the karate chop point, say the following phrases, and as you do, pay attention and pick out the one that has the biggest effect on yourself]
bad things are everywhere
bad people are everywhere
when bad things happen to me, it feels like everything in my life is wrong
it feels like my entire life is broken
when bad things happen, it shows me how my whole life is broken
this [bad thing that happened to me] is indicative of my entire existence
good things are a fluke
[now loop through an entire loop (from eyebrow right through to crown) using the phrase you picked out, and saying:]
even though I believe that [negative statement] I deeply and completely love and forgive (or accept) myself
[finally, loop through as many times as you like, saying the following. If any of the phrases resonate with you, feel free to say it over and over as many times as you like. Continue until you feel relief & calm]
I choose to see how the good events in my life are all tied together
I choose to see how good events occur throughout my life
I choose to realise that when bad things happen, they only affect a small part of my life
bad things happen, but only in that tiny part of my life
bad things are only a small part of my life
I choose to see good events everywhere
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